Live Meaningfully – Ayesha G. Shenk, M.A.
It is officially no longer a ‘new year.’ January has come and gone and, with it, perhaps a few well-intentioned resolutions. February means it’s time for the rubber to hit the proverbial road.
There is much flex and flow to these new beginnings and we have a responsibility to ourselves and to our lives to capture and capitalize upon them and make them as meaningful as possible.
So how does one do that….? What, from the myriad good intentions and proclamations of resolve upon January 1st, really matters enough to now focus our time, our treasure and our talents upon?
Working out more… Eating ‘better’… Drinking Less… Taking Vitamins… Joining that gym… Meditating… Journaling…
Finishing that project… cleaning out the closets… sticking with that instrument… more expediency and efficiency…
Making partner… building the business… climbing the corporate ladder… getting a promotion… asking for a promotion… making more money…
More work/life balance?
Date night with the spouse… picking up a hobby… putting down the phone… taking a real vacation… coaching the kids’ ___ team…
The possibilities could go on and on –
All rather valid sorts of desires and mandates but a bit nebulous and far reaching, when you sit down to actually check the boxes, it seems.
Many of these don’t actually ‘end’… there will always be one more thing to do, one less slice of pizza you should have eaten, one greater achievement that seems to sit just out of reach.
So what if we were to focus on people instead?
And so enters Cupid and all his treacly antics…
February is traditionally littered with conversation hearts and romantic gestures. Cards and chocolates and flowers that last for about three days in the middle of the month and then wane as quickly as they waxed. But what if we combined our desire for all things love and our resolute intentions for the year and made a vow to love intentionally and immersively throughout the entire year? (gasp!)
What if instead of beating ourselves up about that heavy dinner, we burned calories by laughing throughout the meal with a good friend. What if instead of punishing ourselves at the gym, we chased our children on their bikes around the neighborhood in the evening? What if instead of whispering about the new colleague who may threaten your position in line at the company, you invited him to lunch to share what you know and lead by example? What if instead of responding to just one more email, you responded to the pleadings of your seven-year-old to “watch” what his Lego creation can do? What if instead of cleaning out the closet, you cleaned out your address book of friends who no longer stretch or grow you? And what if, instead of scheduling that one February 14th date night, you schedule a weekly “porch date” complete with your honey’s favorite music/drink/snack after the chores are done and kids are in bed?
What if you attuned, attended and attached this year?
Perhaps a more necessary and noble goal.
Wishing you the kind of 2017 that is full of proclamations of love, achievements of attunement and resolutions of relationship.
Till the next time,
Be Well; Live Meaningfully.
Ayesha G. Shenk, M.A. practices at 2150 Park Avenue North as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and can be reached at www.livemeaningfully.net or 407-796-2959.